04-26-22 First Friendships Run Deep
I am blessed to acknowledge that I have contact with three ‘best’ friends who claimed that title in my life over 50 years ago. D’Arcy, Kelly and Deborah came into my life between 3 and 6 years old and at various points have provided me with all the love I needed. To have a bond that needs not talk even annually and to know that in a pinch, they are there for me is beyond measure. I hope that in their souls they know I would do anything for them. It is true that it is Facebook that brought the connection back. When people poo-poo it, I defend the fact that it is the address book, the change of address notice, the Rolodex of our day. Without it, life would just have moved on and we would only have the memories. Now, we have all the joy of watching others children and someday, grandchildren, come to be. I get to share in the celebrations and the pains of life in a moment. They give me support and love when I need it. Today, I received a box in the mail full of puzzles from my Kelly. She and I go back before school days, having met in the neighbourhood of Queensboro, New Westminster, B.C. She and I were so close we even skipped a grade together and share the title of youngest in the class of ‘80 although she is even 4 months younger than I am. The fact that she thought of me and sent me this wonderful hand-me-down gift, just warms my heart. When I went through therapy, every new councilor, psychologist or therapist would ask me if I could count on one hand the people I could reach out to in a crisis. It was always pointed out to me that the network I had formed was the structure to build my life on, to rely on, to know that I had worth if they thought I did, even when I didn’t. These three people are the base of my totem. I love them and know they love me, what more can one wish for.
I believe it is the depths of those relationships that allow me to accept the ‘besties’ I now have in my life that show me regularly that I am worthy of their love and let me be me. I do know that those friends from anon and the ones I hold close these days are all strong, loving, caring people who love their families deeply, no surprise our bonds are strong.
triumphgal 