06-05-24 Oh Mom
I woke up just after 5:30 am and figured I may as well get up as I had a client that booked me for 10 in office to assist with her books and reconciling. I was at the office before 9 and worked on MusicFest stuff before she was to arrive… and she didn’t. She finally called at 11:30 as I was about to leave. I had promised Mom that I would pick up her pills in blister packs for the next 4 weeks and grab some healthy lunch while I was at it. I was looking forward to it taking about an hour and then I would get back to the office and my client would show up.
Of course that is not how it went…
First, one of the pills in her pack has no refills and the rest have 4 and I need to pick up the next batch before leaving for MusicFest, so I headed to the Urgent Care Clinic to get a phone appointment made so I could deal with it
Second, I showed up at Mom’s and her feet and legs are very swollen and I feel that she is not a hundred percent with cognitive either. She said it’s been going on for over a week. Sigh. I called the clinic and they told me that I can’t make an in person appointment, that I have to bring her in and wait… sigh. I made a plan to call her at 7:30 to wake her up and then pick her up at 8:30 so that we can be there to get in line for the 9 am opening.
We had a good talk as I made a Cobb salad for lunch and le her know that she has to let me know about medical stuff, not reply ‘Fine’ when I ask how she is doing. She said she thinks I am too busy. We had a heart to heart as I spelled out that I am the same busy as I was last year when I spent time every day at the hospital with her. I had to remind her that just because the lady across the hall had her daughter come visit her every day, that is not our relationship. I had to be a bit assertive to remind her that her social needs are being met there, that we have never had that kind of relationship and that I will always be there when she truly needs me. I think she understood, but I also think she is not truly all there at the moment. I will ask them to do a UTI test tomorrow as well. I had bought her test strips and found out she has never used them even though I asked her to do it weekly. I got her to do it while I was there and it shows borderline positive midday. I hate when I come across Momming her; I want to just have peace and love, but the roles are reversed now.
I stopped at Hyundai on the way to the office to be sure I got the proper mud flaps as every little splash shows up from my All Terrains. Had a good laugh with the sales staff when I said ‘Never sell me a car’ as the last two who did are no longer there. Not even a week later! They are going to see what will work with my new cars trim.
Back at the office, I let my client know I was back and she eventually showed up and after an hour left happy. (That sounds naughty)
When I was finally done with the day I wrapped up and headed home to work on my puzzle and watch the Circle.
Lukas and Roger stopped by as I let Lukas know that I had $US20.25 and he is leaving on his band trip to Disneyland tonight. They are taking a bus to Spokane and flying out of there. I am so happy for him. It is a very expensive trip, but he has done an amazing job fundraising.
While they were here, Roger and I had a shot of good scotch in honour of his Dad whose birthday was last week while he was away. Got to keep up the traditions and honours.
triumphgal 