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The little square on my paper calendar and the list on my phone was full with Dentist for cleaning, Tech meeting for upcoming show and strata council meeting. I brought Aiden with me to the tech meeting as I think he would be great as a theatre volunteer and it will be a good college résumé item as well. He had interesting perspectives of what was needed and the people there. I look forward to his help.

I fear for my friends relationship. Disintegration in action of anything is hard to watch and far harder to experience. I try to remember what I would have wanted as any of my three marriages broke down. I know with the first one it was what we now know was post-partum depression and all I wanted was someone to help me, to get me through it, to understand what I didn’t. To teach me to swim as I was drowning. I don’t know how to be the lifeguard but I know how to listen. I want to be the lifeline. I need them to be ok.

Last night’s full moon left me struggling to wake up after tossing and turning but a connection I’d made through Facebook dating left me with a little spring in my step after a messenger chat this morning. I forget it is activated and was surprised to get a message from a nephew of a friend. We had a great chat last night and this morning so when my day was over I reached out. It was funny as he requested we video message and then I basically listened to him for an hour and 10 minutes. He was super sweet but there were a few red flags for me. I will see what happens as he lives in an East Kootenay town but not here. I am also 9 years older and he has kids at home. So many hurdles, none insurmountable but…. I am grateful to him for stirring up the idea that I may want someone in my life. Maybe it doesn’t have to be a for always but a for fun for now. I do like me a tall drink of water. Maybe a toy boy could be good company in these interesting times.

I started my day on my motorcycle taking a swing past the site of the calamity. As I went by I noticed two things that caught my artistic eye so I swung way around the block and pulled into the parking lot next door. There was a barricade and police tape across part of the parking lot which I parked next to but a wide open spot at the sidewalk. I walked along there and zoomed my phone in to take the shot above. There is something incredibly moving to me when I see only chimneys or elevator shafts left standing after a fire. My favourite part of building houses was always the concrete work. Laying the foundation knowing that it would be there forever in relative terms gave me great satisfaction. The spookiness of only that shaft remaining as a recognizable part of the building went well against the morning sky. I did move a little closer back towards my bike as I had also noticed a potential ‘money’ shot. I lined up, zoomed in and took the shot. That was it, two pictures of a place I had spent a bit of time in my life in back in the ‘80s when it was the legion with cheap beer and pool tables. The whole time I was aware there was an RCMP member in his car across the rubble watching but I didn’t see him get out of his car. Then I heard beside me a loud Excuse me you need to leave the site. It seems I had in my awe moved on the wrong side of the barricade. I was no where near but respectfully said thank you and have a great day before I rode off.

This is the second picture which I titled Twisted Peaks as that is Fisher Peak framed in the twisted metal. My ‘mistake’ was posting it on the Cranbrook, BC Facebook page. I was the first one to post fire pics yesterday and everyone was sharing them. Today, the Karens came out to play. I should not let trolls ruin my day but it’s not that easy. I was grateful for those who left beautiful comments. This photo, as my friend Sioban put it, is both Tragic and Beautiful. That was my intention. Not all who look, see. They will not be part of my tribe. That’s ok. it also shows how incredibly hot that fire burned.

I didn’t look after my health very well today, skipped a couple meals, etc but was thrilled when my eldest daughter called to confirm she was eager to go to Kimberley to have dinner at The Sully. This was the spot her father and I used to frequent and although it doesn’t resemble the old pub much, the food sure is good and they’ve done a good job retro fitting for COVID. We had a great visit downloading our days and relationships. I came home to my new digital box from Shaw and when I moved things around and hooked them up I was easily able to turn 3 remotes into one in the living room and two into one in the bedroom. Success! Now if the boxes work together rather than the chaotic mess I had previously all will be right in my world of TV.

Tomorrow has a list on my calendar so off to sleep I must go. Ciao, my friends.

I love my calendar flip today. I do feel like I have an amazing tribe. Monika brought me a beautiful plant and card to congratulate me for making big moves. The CFEK crew brought cake! It turned out to be perfect timing as we were all at odds during a power outage. What a lovely gift of support for tough choices!

I had gone to the dentist to get a slight adjustment on my Crown and when I came out I noticed a bit of black smoke billowing down the strip. of course I had to go investigate. The fire had clearly just started but was going hard and the wind wasn’t helping. It was a building I spent a good deal of time in back in the day when it was the légion and it was the original Crestbrook office which is likely where my stepmom was working when my Dad met her. I haves heard it was mid renovation after sitting empty for a very long time. Such a shame. It also burned down the restaurant downwind if it. Everyone is ok but such losses. It also caused the power to be down for a while and created havoc trying to connect to servers when it came back up.

After cake I headed to Rae’s to see how they were doing. Ended up hanging out in the yard chatting and then took the boys to their first full restaurant outing since March. We walked down to The Firehall and enjoyed way too much delicious food. Roger joined us but had to sit at a separate table where Gene joined him as we were already 6. Next we walked over to Twisted Peaks for froyo. So delicious and so glad we were walking to burn some of it off. Great to spend time with the boys. Sawyer thought it was the best time ever.

Dug the holes and installed the last two fence posts. Hot work but less hot than last week. Danika arrived to drop off Emmy just as I was finishing. Emmy played in the pooled and told me stories. A while later Zoë got dropped off and the two became fast friends at first meeting. They played and made me laugh, especially the interviews. Zoë said it was like having a little sister. So sweet. Danika came for leftover dinner and we had a nice visit. Spent the evening on theatre things and posting items for sale. Immediately sold a screen door and when I noticed he had pavers in his truck we ended up trading. Good deal as I want to make a bit of a patio space. I find the pea gravel horrible to walk on. He had just left and I was tending to watering when I got a text that the other Diane in my life was in my driveway. Haven’t seen her in too long and we wandered the yard and caught up. Hope to go walking tomorrow. my nose is very dry, the sky is Smokey.

I wanted to ride the couch and catch up on my shows this morning but I realized I needed to finish my yard work before the sun beat down. I dug up some more sod and transferred it to the bare spots, raked in the rocks, planted my strawberries, mowed the lawn and weeded. I shall buy the ingredients to make Julie’s weed spray. A bonus was pictures marked free and left by the community mailbox that go so well on my Fence. Suddenly it was time to rush off to the dentist. It was Crown Day. Unfortunately the experience was marred by acid reflux. I managed to barely hold it together. $1165.00 later I have a shiny tooth. I do like Dr Mike. We usually have a few good laughs. After that I picked up a few things at Home Hardware as my collapsible laundry basket had arrived and then off to Walmart. I was looking for The Brave Little Toaster as Diane has never even heard of it. They didn’t have it but I picked up a few things and managed to drop a jar of Alfredo sauce at the check out. Mortifying! The staff were amazing and more concerned that I was ok. Very impressive. I picked up Zoë to come play in the pool while her parents laid flooring in the basement. Eventually they were all here for a Spring Salmon and corn on the BBQ, baby potatoes, fresh beans and salad. We ate and then lit the fire and watched The Missing Link outside. It was a most lovely relaxed evening. Good times with good folk.

Slogged through the day, got as much done as possible and headed off to my hair appointment at Jagged Edge. Three hours later I felt well pampered, had experienced a great visit with Karissa who I’ve known since she was a graduate with my daughter Rae-Anne and felt more relaxed. It has been since February when I last had her shave the side of my head. I refrained for now and just got a trim and colour. While I was waiting I watched a bit of The Fine Boys featuring a friend, Jeff Osmond on drums, live from Newfoundland. Great treat. By the time I got out I was late to pick up Julie and Diane to go for dinner. We had planned on the Heidout but it was busy so headed to Mr Mikes for a great meal (ribs) and better company. Afterwards we went to Dianes and played Heads Up with Sean as well. So much laughter I and a good way to end Julie’s stay. I think she is stressed about the drive home tomorrow and where she may stop over. Can’t really help there, made a few suggestions but I would be checking ahead for occupancy during these different times.

I look forward to sleep, it hasn’t taken me anytime at all to adjust to my weighted blanket. I highly recommend the brand and the concept.

I ran into that imaginary wall today. Got a fair bit done, enjoyed takeout Family Thai order with Julie, Cindy and Madison at the office and then an hour or so later I was done. Kept working but it got harder and I had less patience. Finally we got to the point where we could leave things until tomorrow and got out of there. I took Julie on a weird tour. first we stopped to inspect Diane’s near (& now) finished basement painting. Made plans for the three of us to do dinner tomorrow night. Next was a drive by hugging of Emmy and then a drive out and around the St Eugene Casino area so Julie could take mountain pictures. A lazy drive back through the beautiful countryside and we made a nice dinner with the veggies she picked up on the way here. I went out and did a little more yard work and we settled on the couch with Twisted Peaks frozen yogurt we’d picked up, a nice bottle of wine and a few shows on Prime Video. First was one Sean had recommended that cracked me up. The Goes Wrong Show makes me wish I’d thought if it! We also finished watching Eco-challenge The World’s Toughest Race. It was very emotional. All in all a good day but I am worried about Jules as her feet are swelling. She has a long drive home so I hope they go down or it may not be wise to leave.

Up and at it, spread dirt and seeded areas of my lawn where the pool was last year. Washed the car to get the most of it off then we headed out. First stop was the actual car wash which was only mildly better. Not sure what’s going on with my car’s finish. May have to drop in to Honda. The big bonus was the Vacuum there. Managed to get all the plant detritus and winter gravel out. We were laughing at the fact that even the simplest chores are more fun and quicker with two.

Next was a road trip to Kimberley as Julie hadn’t made it there last time. We toured upper townsite, Cominco Gardens, the Ski Hill, the Platzl and lower Blarchmont. Everywhere we entered we masked up and it was nice to wander in and out spending bits here and there. I picked up a cute bathing suit top half price and an opal ring at Arrow and Axe. Discovered that Talaria sells Fluevogs by walking in and asking what brand those shoes were in the window that look like Fluevogs. I didn’t know they sold them outside their own stores. All were half price but none that fit me,,,

Next stop after ice cream was the Marysville Falls. Gorgeous as always but less visible as the trees have all grown up. We hurried back for a quick stop at Safeway as Rae and the boys were coming for BBQ and swim. I started to get anxious and I think it was a combo of being out so much in public and having someone stay in my home that isn’t family. Not rational, just Covid.

Had a lovely time with the family, started watching Missing Link outside but it’s not quite dark enough early enough for the kids yet. After they left and all was cleaned up Julie and I watched three episodes of the World’s Toughest Race, Eco-challenge. I feel we will be binging it this week. CAnada is doing well, just no focus on them for some reason. It’s really been a very full weekend.

Up early, watched a few episodes of Umbrella Academy. Am quite enjoying it. Headed off to Home Depot to trade a few plumbing parts as I plan to finally solve the one of my double sinks won’t drain issue. While there I picked up primer for Diane which nicely traded for two bottles of Moscato when I dropped it off. I decided to get the matching set of door handles for my new door as it will arrive soon and they are on half price. On my way to the car I spot a clearance sale in the garden department. Next thing you know my car is full of plants and i am on my way. Even had a grasshopper buddy.

Drive through A&W. Got the fish and chips…nope.

Installed my fence, mowed my lawn, planted the bushes i bought and was so tired I could not do any more. Came in and replumbed under the kitchen sink. I don’t know why it took 2 years to do such a simple fix but now I have drainage from both sinks! I then took a shower and completed my cleaning for my soon to arrive guests.

Maureen showed up and we had nice little visit before Julie showed up after a very long drive from the coast. She brought me an amazing mask. We had pasta with shrimp and scallops and a fab garden salad grown by Maureen!

After a challenge to get it set up as it had been a while, we had the computer projected on the trailer wall and my sound bar working. Tonight’s encore presentation from CCT was Visiting Mr. Green with Jerrod Bondy and Michael Grossman. I enjoyed it. The set was awesome and the guys were brilliant. It was lovely to sit outside with the ladies with fire going watching it.

Just before the ladies arrived I had messaged an old boyfriend to thank him for my very productive day. I had woken early all hot and bothered from a dream about him. I had to thank him for the memories, it was only fair 🙂

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The list is shorter because I get things done. My problem is taking on too much. The lists just need to be shorter overall. I need to leave work sooner and ride longer. Today was lovely. My lunch from yesterday improved with avocado and feta. I love when healthy tastes good

My friend Julie is driving up from the Fraser Valley tomorrow. I offered to pay her for some data entry and co e for a visit. I really look forward to seeing her. She has been distancing for her Mom’s sake so I feel comfortable having her stay. It will be nice to have company and help.

Today I didn’t get as much billable time as I would have liked but I certainly got a lot done. I received callbacks about my liability insurance and Extended benefits. One was from Westland Insurance who I must say has great personnel working for them and good connections for policies. Did you know they were held for cyber ransom for 6 days not too long ago? I can’t imagine how stressful that was. The benefits are through BCAA and I did again have great service and assistance from the woman who emailed me back, suggesting a less expensive package with all I would need. I love not being upsold when unnecessary. I took part in half price deals day through the local radio station although most things were sold out by the time my day was clear enough to go on. I did pick up a couple good coupons I hope to share with Diane and Maureen down the road and half price from Beer Works in Kimberley sounds right up my alley.

My friend Julie, who I’ve known since high school confirmed today that she is driving up for a visit from the lower mainland and I am going to hire her to do some data entry while she is here. I am looking forward to the visit!

Had another small world connection today when the newest nomad renter in the coworker space and I got chatting. He and his wife , Jodi are moving from Cochrane Alberta when they find a place. In a winding conversation he brought up her going to guitar camp and their connection with Doug Cox. I consider him a dear friend, the Big Guy at VIMF and have already recruited them to come work the next festival. Hearing Gerald talk about Linda McRae and Todd Butler was so trippy.

For the second time in as many weeks I have had a male client sit in my office and during conversation say something about if they were married to me or were with me ..such and such. It is a testament to my poker face that I didn’t blush like a school girl and blurt out: Oh, behave! it is challenging being a single professional some days. Especially when a beautiful man in a cowboy hat kneels beside your chair at the desk and asks if he is too close….

Came home to find I had forgotten to turn off the water filling the pool. I just can’t have nice things….

I was nose to the grindstone all day. Diane lured me away from work with a photo of a burger about to go on the grill. I was so tired when I got there it was embarrassing as I was cold and yawning and wan. turns out I was my version of Hangry. After dinner, which I Hoovered, I felt myself perk up. I stayed for only one game of crib and headed home while I was still mellow. I opened the doors and turned on all the fans while I went out to water. First thing I noticed was that the pool cover was half off hanging on the lawn. I didn’t see anything in it so I covered it back up, winched it down and proceeded to water all around it. After I came in I got dressed for bed and thought I’d watch a little Big Brother. As I passed the front door I heard water running and the pool was quickly draining out one side. I rushed out and pulled the side up to discover the upper ring was deflated. I must have hooked the inflated valve when I was covering it. Good thing I noticed before too much was gone. After I re-inflated it I started it refilling. That was quite an adrenaline rush. Poured a glass of Moscato and sat on the couch but my remote wouldn’t work. I looked it up and tested the one in my room to find out the battery life. It has 96% while the living room one was dead. I like the little message at the bottom.

I was reminded when I got home and walked into a wall of heat why exactly I ride a motorcycle to my air conditioned office.

I did have great moments in the day including a repurpose of an old Frame, gifting Diane and Zöe with Norwex masks and remembering with a chuckle Will’s comment yesterday: ‘ So, you have a collection of little glasses that no one is allowed to drink from that you brought from other places…. why?’

The morning started out with a snuggle from William at a decent time because the clock he looked at was an hour early. We settled him in with cheese cake for breakfast and he thinks my voice activated remote for Blue Curve TV is the ultimate in technology. Gene eventually got up for the same. They grind on each other sometimes but really are good and helpful boys. I dropped them off on my way to work.

Once there I had a list that seemed to keep getting longer even as I ticked things off. Much of it was for pay, much was not. I have to get liability insurance and in checking out options also found out that through BCAA I can get manulife benefits at a reasonable cost. this is very good info.

I tried out my new microwave popcorn maker and not only is it stylish but it worked well. A perfect addition to my office.

I worked late as I knew how hot it was outside. And it was 31 inside when I got home. I made dinner in the microwave, aimed the fan at my spot on the couch and proceeded to melt into it. i am watching my 90 Day shows and reviewing the volunteer issues in my day. I hope not to stew in my sleep.

3 years ago an event changed the way I feel about many things. My cousin, Kelly, was the victim of a murder suicide by her husband. The biggest thing learned is that people say ‘he would never’ but he might. Protect and help women in danger. It’s up to all of us.

After 9 hours sleep I got a bunch of chores done and asked Gene to help me put in a couple fence posts. I picked him up and we donned our masks to hit up Home Depot. the intention was to rent a gas powered auger but both of theirs were not working. I did order the back and laundry doors I have been planning for as a sale was on. Next was Walmart for a few items. They mandated masks and are providing them for the transition.

We picked up Will and stopped to grab hand augers from Bill’s house. It was far too hot so the boys jumped in the pool and had a grand time. I installed the new door set I’d picked up half price. It’s the type I use at work. The key is on my cell.

We had a great picnic dinner and then all three of us worked together to get two fence posts installed. Next was a couple hours of Little Big Planet 3 before the6 headed to bed. They are not used to the heat in here. Such good boys though.